It is said that the family is happy because of the woman. But honestly, it isn’t like that. To sustain a loving relationship, both parties must put in equal effort. But it is seen in many cases that one keeps trying tirelessly to please his partner, forgetting his own will and reluctance, while the other follows his mind. It often leads to frustration and wanting to get things done. Have you lost yourself in a relationship? Let’s see how to understand it.
1) His opinion prevails in everything:
Will you meet somewhere? Is it always in its convenient place? When will you meet? Even at his convenience, every time? Going out to eat somewhere in a restaurant food is always his choice. You love your partner, but he should sometimes prioritize your opinion. Your choice is no less important than his choice. Give yourself a chance; your partner will get to know you better and strengthen the relationship.
2) Career Change:
In many cases, one compromises their career due to the partner’s opinion/dislike. The death of his dream remains a regret for the rest of his life. It is not acceptable in any way. You are an intelligent, independent, career-oriented; all your career decisions are yours. Someone who loves you will not stop you from achieving your goals. Explain to the partner and assure them that your career will not stand in the way.
(3) Gifts and Compliments:
Sometimes, small gifts and compliments create a lot of love. But maybe you saved hard money and bought a gift for your loved one, stayed up all night and made something with your own hands without your partner noticing it. Cash is optional. Your partner’s love is necessary. It can be expressed by gifting your favourite flowers or surprising you with your favourite chocolates. If you still need to, you should also pay attention to yourself and use this hard money to fulfil your needs and hobbies.
(4) Recognition:
This is very important in any relationship. Does he recognize you as a girlfriend? Does he always have you by his side at events? Does he stand by your side in your crisis? Does your honor-disrespect count as your honor-dishonor? Does he protest when someone falsely accuses you or harasses you? Does he see his future with you? If the response to these inquiries is ‘yes’, nothing remains to be stressed over. But if you say ‘no’, then think again. Why should you stay with someone whose life, existence, and respect are? Are you important? Tell your partner what you don’t like. If he loves you, he will surely realize his mistake and be more responsible towards you.
(5) Forgetting oneself:
Love is lovely. When you fall in love, you feel your existence revolves around your lover. But the reality is different. Your existence revolves around your personality. It is supposed only after the first few months have passed. You might like to read, draw or travel. or to sleep. But you may be so engrossed in thinking about your partner that you forget your hobbies. It can also be seen that the quality that made your partner like you is no longer yours, so your partner and you are not the same.
Love yourself, and prioritize your work and hobbies. Peace of mind, confidence and happiness in relationships will all return.