The appearance of another individual from the family generally gives pleasure. But as the child grows up, new fears are born inside the parents’ minds. My baby is safe and not in any danger! This fear is the beginning of some perverted mentality of people around us. Because child abuse is a serious crime that is happening all around us. But many of us have no idea about this. Or if you know, maybe you don’t think so. From such incidents, children are subjected to physical and mental abuse, as well as their healthy growth process is also disrupted. Today’s topic is primary education about good and bad touch to remedy child abuse.
What is a good touch and a bad touch?
This is a pervasive and essential message for every child. Suitable attachment means the baby feels safe and well. Bad touch, on the other hand, is scary and uncomfortable for every child. Touch is essential in children’s daily life. Sometimes, they even understand what is good and what is bad touch. Because your child may be a victim of this horrible incident by a very close person, suppose a relative touches your child nicely and gives him some gift during the first two or three meeting times. Your child can trust him. Later, the same person may exploit the child’s trustworthiness to harass him. So it is essential to give this education to the child with care in every respect.
From what age do you learn?
Usually, from the age of two, children understand their various organs. You get to know him about every part by playing a little daily. You can also learn which hand, foot, head, or eye to draw a picture. Then, gradually teach him to identify the private parts. Also, inform him about this while changing clothes and bathing.
How to explain and teach:
1) the child and your family members are included in this section. A good touch is good if parents, grandparents, grandparents or even a relative gives a good caress or kiss that he likes and feels comfortable with. Children should also be taught who they can caress. Let him know how he treats his family members at home so that he does not do the same outside.
2) Bad touch if a child feels fear or pain and feels uncomfortable in any contact or someone puts a hand on his private part unnecessarily.
3) If someone takes your child to a separate room or an empty place by tempting him with chocolate or something else, tell him not to go.
4) If the child repeatedly touches him despite his consent, it is also a bad touch.
5) Teach him to tell someone or shout if he encounters these incidents.
6) Explain which family members can bathe, toilet or change the child.
7) Many books and videos on good and bad touch are now available. You can tell him practically by reading a book, drawing a picture or watching a video together. In this, the child will gradually learn about touch.
To do:
Along with teaching the child about good and bad touch, you must also fulfil some responsibilities. For example-
Observe the child:
Watch your baby closely as he grows up. Notice if he is shy, angry, sensitive or funny. Not all children can be persuaded in the same way. So teach him like him. Many children blend effortlessly into any environment. So, let him know about his circle because anyone can tempt these children and harm them. A quiet child may not tell if something is going on. So teach good touch and bad touch according to your child’s attitude.
Avoid over-reliance:
“Sometimes salt looks like sugar” means don’t always trust anyone. Children can also be victims of child abuse by intimate partners. He might come and tell you about him. That person you trust instead scolded the child for lying, but it will hurt him. Don’t do that at all. Be aware of who your child is interacting with, talking to, and behaving like.
Build a good relationship with the child:
Due to work, peer pressure, or other reasons, partners often cannot understand the child. Their parents get angry at the slightest. Listen carefully to what your child has to say. Build a good relationship with him so he can share anything openly. If you do not cooperate, the child will not want to tell, even if he is the victim of an unpleasant incident.
Build the child’s confidence:
Teaching children self-confidence is very important. He can fight back at any lousy time. Convince him that his body is exclusively his. He should not think that it is his fault if something wrong happens. Don’t let him move away from fear. If the child develops this confidence, he can handle any situation.
Stand up without shame:
Sometimes, the parents are more shy about talking about these things than the child. On the contrary, he silenced the child, thinking about what people would say. Know that you are unknowingly putting your child in danger. Along with the child, you have to protest about this. If you don’t say anything now out of shame or thinking that the relationship will deteriorate, then one day, the situation may not be in hand anymore. So stand by the child in these situations and stand against the wrongdoer.
Things to watch out for:
Kids can’t or don’t want to share a lot. In that case, if you see some signs, you should understand whether he is going through any unpleasant problems. Signs you should watch out for and talk to your child about-
* If the child screams during sleep.
* If you wet the bed at night with fear.
* When the agitation decreases and becomes completely silent.
* When careless at work.
*If you are always nervous or afraid of fear.